Now let's do a little test. She's going to ask him what he's thinking of right now.... Go on, don't be shy, ask him! You undoubtly did a million times anyways. Now what did he say? Let us guess, it had something to do with NOTHING right? And you know what happens if he asks her that same question (hypothetically of course, we all know that he never does). She'll chatter on for about 60 minutes about nothing in particular. Well, we're here to help you finetuning your communication. We'll give you some hints and advice that will make you understand eachother better, which of course will improve your relationship. N.B. If you really don't feel like working for your relationship, we advice you to wait until your better half has gone out and to check out the pages we made for your own sex.

A special exercize to help you trust eachother One of the first things you both should get rid of is the mistrust you have in the other. Without trust, there can't be any good communication about what's going on in your minds whatsoever. So here's a little exercize for you. The idea is that you take turns in the roles you play. Take one of his stocks and tie it around the head of one of you, so it covers the eyes. It is extremely important that you really can't see anything through it. The one who doesn't have his or her eyes covered can exercize a bit already with this trust-thing, by asking the other if he or she can see anything, and belief it when the answer is "No". (If he doesn't have any stocks, go to a store and buy one, preferably one with hearts on it, in order to stay in the right mood). Now the one that still has some eyesight takes the 'blind' one out for a walk. Do NOT try this at home, you really should go out to get the full impact of the exercize! The blind one is to be guided through the streets, relying completely on the partner. Only when the blind one has learned to be guided by the other without hesitation AND when obstacles are no longer bumped into, you can go home and change places. We know this all looks rather odd, but even the laughter of the people on the street is very good for your relationship. You now both had the same embarrassing experience, which will bring you closer and - if the non-blind one didn't run away with a red head - you know that your partner won't leave you easily.

So what do they really mean? This part was designed to learn something about the other's language. The following part is a common string of sentences men and women say to eachother. We wrote the real meaning of the words next to them. You'll probably recognize a lot, but chances are that at first one or both of you denies our interpretation. Don't worry. Just read this part over and over again until both of you confess having every hidden meaning we put down here. Only then you'll be ready for the final step...

	What you say she: "How do you like my new dress?"	What you mean Please tell me you're still attracted to me
	he: (not looking up from his paper): "Hmmmmmm"	What? Another new dress??? She'll put me to bankruptcy one day
	she: "How was your day, sweetheart?"	I need some attention NOW!
	he: "Boring, as always"	Well, we've got this hot looking new secretary, and when I went out on my lunchbreak she smiled this very sexy, promising smile to me.
	she: "Oh, well, at least you're home now. (smiles) Would you like a beer?	Yeah right, he probably spent his day again drewling over every woman he saw. But what the hell. I've GOT him, and I'm going to make sure he stays here, even if that means I have to get him drunk.
	he: "Yes please, that's sweet of you"	I'd rather go get some beer in a bar or something, where they don't keep nagging on about nothing in particular. On the other hand, it DOES feel good to be waited on.
	she: "And what do you really think of my new dress? Now be honest. (still smiling)"	You bastard. Cosmopolitan already told me that I should watch out for men. They only want you to bring them beer. Once they have you, they don't care one bit about how you look. Tomorrow I'll throw out all my make-up and the only clothes I'll wear will be VERY easy to wear and TERRIBLE to look at.
	he: "Hmmmmmmm"	It DOES look good on her, but telling her that will only make her arrogant.

Now you're ready for some real intercourse By learning the above part by heart, you should now be able to see the hidden meaning behind your partners words. Now you both have to learn how to deal with these messages. Make yourselves a cosy place to sit and talk and practise the following sentences until you're able to react the way you should...

	she:	"How do you like my new dress?"
	he:	"Honey, you look stunning! But then again, you always do."
	she:	Smiles, kisses him. "Would you like a nice cold beer, dear?"
	he:	"I'd love one, thanks."
	she:	walks to the refrigirator, turning her hips to show that she's still trying to be attractive for him.
	he:	kisses her gently when she comes back and lovingly strokes her...

Well, from here you should be able to go on yourselves. Both should be in the right mood by now and provided that he doesn't throw himself at her and she can keep herself from nagging, you can have a great evening. However, if you're having problems with the sex-part, please turn to our sex-page first. You might actually learn even more and consequently have the best love-making you ever had....

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